Table of Contents
1. Personality and ability to regulate emotions
2. The role of social support and security figures
3. Search for meaning and identity narrative
4. Build a safe and empathetic space
Jakarta, hitclubapk3 Indonesia
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Not all
child
react the same way when you become a victim
bullying
.There are those who respond with anger, there are also those who choose to remain silent and drown in feelings of guilt.
According to clinical psychologist from Tabula Rasa, Arnold Lukito, this difference in response is not just a matter of strength or weakness, but is related to personality factors, social support and the search for self-meaning.
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“Bullying can be a big emotional trigger, but its impact really depends on several factors,” said Arnold when contacted by hitclubapk3Indonesia.com, Monday (10/11).
Here are several things that can trigger how children respond when they are victims of bullying:
1. Personality and ability to regulate emotions
Arnold explained that personality structure and emotional regulation capacity greatly influence how children express their pain.Children with impulsive, aggressive personalities or a history of trauma tend to express their inner wounds externally, for example by hurting other people or behaving destructively.
“In contrast, children who are sensitive, perfectionist, or have no emotional outlet usually express their pain internally, such as blaming themselves until symptoms of depression or suicidal ideation appear,” he explained.
In other words, one bullying incident can give rise to two extremes:
• Externalization shown by the attitude ‘I will reply so they know how it feels’
• Internalization shown by the attitude ‘Maybe I deserve to be hurt’
2. The role of social support and security figures
Apart from personality, the presence of a safe adult figure, such as a teacher, parent, counselor or mentor also plays an important role.Children who feel seen and heard tend to be better able to channel their emotions in a healthy way.
“Not always because the figure provides a solution, but because he gives a sense of recognition,” said Arnold.
Conversely, without social support, children can look for validation elsewhere, including from communities that accept them unconditionally, even if that community contains dangerous values or ideologies.
3. Search for meaning and identity narrative
Bullying often makes children feel like they don’t have a place.In such conditions, extreme narratives that offer meaning or the role of a ‘warrior’ can feel very attractive.
“Extreme ideologies often give the opposite message: you are not a victim, you are a fighter. Narratives like this are very strong for teenage brains who are building their self-concept,” explained Arnold.
Adolescents are basically looking for meaning, recognition, and a sense of control over their lives.When they don’t get all that from a safe environment, they are more easily drawn to anyone who comes with the message ‘we understand you.’
4. Build a safe and empathetic space
Arnold emphasized that understanding the mechanisms behind children’s responses to bullying can be an important basis for preventing violence and radicalization.Children need a safe space to express themselves without fear of being judged.
“Building empathy, emotional literacy and a sense of acceptance is much more effective than just giving advice,” he said.
Ultimately, there is no one universal way to deal with the impact of bullying.Every child has his own emotional world.
“All adults can do is be present, listen, and make sure the child knows that he is not alone,” he said.
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